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Do you deserve happiness?

June 29th, 2007 · 8 Comments

It is not a trick question.

I’d really like to ask you – do you think, deep deep down inside – that you deserve happiness?
You Deserve to be Happy!
My dear friend Chris has a provocative post over at her Take a Bite blog – about whether you deserve to be loved… Secrets of Staying Together – Deserving. As a Relationship Specialist, Chris poses the question in terms of your loving relationship. Then in a comment in response to Chris, Leah asks the same question of small business people and whether they feel they deserve success.

Taking this conversation just that little bit further, and I really don’t think it’s a stretch from what Chris is talking about (and please do go read her post) I am asking whether you think you deserve to be happy?

Do YOU deserve to have a happy, peaceful, fulfilled life?

Or do you think, “I’m not good/ rich/ pretty/ intelligent/ educated enough to get what I want and have a happy life”?

According to the Law of Attraction, made popular by movies like The Secret, you attract what you think about. Therefore, that belief that you don’t DESERVE may be the very thing that is stopping you getting it.

It isn’t enough to WANT it. You need to believe you are good enough, that you deserve your dreams… no matter your past, no matter your bank account balance, no matter what. Because if you don’t think you deserve to be happy, you won’t do what it takes to BE happy…

Tags: Getting on My Soapbox · Resourcing for Women Who Do Too Much · Wonder Woman

8 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Angela Esnouf // Jun 29, 2007 at 8:15 pm

    Yes Yes Yes! I do deserve happiness, and love, and success. And the more I believe it, the more I get. And the more I get, the more I have to give others. Thanks for the reminder.

  • 2 Carolyn Manning // Jul 1, 2007 at 2:14 am

    Ya know, Karen, sometimes the belief that we deserve happiness gets fogged and confused by what the things we’re trying to eliminate.

    I’m fighting that right now. There’s part of my life that needs to be changed and the path is pretty well laid out. Yet, almost every day I find myself starting to, well, get a bit negative.

    I can restore my appreciation in the present if I keep reminding myself that the unsatisfactory now is simply a path to the future.

    So, all of those “I’m don’t haves” and “I’m nots” need to be tempered with “yets”. I don’t have and I’m not because I’m still learning to “get” and “be”.

    Gee, I might have to write about this subject :)

    By the way, love the new look.

  • 3 karen // Jul 2, 2007 at 11:10 am

    Angela – You do deserve happiness! And you’re so right – the more you get, the more you have to give to others… and I know you’re good at giving to others with your beautiful, generous (organised) soul.

  • 4 karen // Jul 2, 2007 at 11:13 am

    Carolyn, ahhh – it’s interesting what gets in the way, isn’t it? I’d love to read what you have to say on this subject – I know you’d add a lot more to the conversation, as you always do.

    You can still believe you deserve happiness, even when it’s not here right now. Without that belief, it’s hard to have the strength to eliminate the ‘stuff’ and walk the path.

    I wish you strength and the belief that things WILL be better…

    Thanks for visiting!!!

  • 5 Carolyn Manning // Jul 2, 2007 at 12:50 pm

    Ya know, Karen, I think we look at some of the stuff as being in the way when, in reality, it’s part of the way. We need to understand that nothing can happen before its time; otherwise, we wouldn’t be prepared for it and likely couldn’t handle it.

    So, is it strength or patience that we need when we don’t have what we want when we want it? Maybe a little of both?

    Yep, this is definitely going to have to be a write-up.

  • 6 Thoughts & Philosophies » The Present Is The Road To Happiness // Jul 7, 2007 at 1:17 am

    [...] idea was to expand on Karen Wallace’s question, Do you deserve happiness? over at The Clearing Space. Of course you deserve happiness. We all do. But my idea was to talk [...]

  • 7 John // Jun 8, 2008 at 2:34 pm

    I see the last post was almost a year ago, but tonight i find myself asking that very question. I find myself moving into a faux happiness to try to cover up what has made me unhappy.

  • 8 Philipa // Aug 4, 2008 at 9:00 pm

    I think you all need to stop denying the fact that you can’t gain happiness from just thinking you deserve it, you need to have a solid basis for your life something you can depend on and that is worth depending on not the belief that you are number one because where is that going to get you? I think instead of asking yourself ‘do I deserve to be happy’ you should ask yourself ‘what is at the very centre of my life’ because if you is what is at the centre who is going to want that and where is that going to get you? Make a change for the better and stop thinking about yourselves!

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